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Thu, Nov. 6th, 2008, 09:43 pm
joylessroots: Intro

Hey all. I don't really have any questions right now, because I'm wayyyy too mixed up right now and don't know where to even begin with what to ask, so I'll just introduce myself and my situation.

I'm Emily, and I just gave birth to my daughter Anya on October 23rd (this year). Tomorrow she'll be 2 weeks old.

I've been having issues breastfeeding her exclusively because I tore pretty badly during delivery and it's made it uncomfortable to feed her sitting up, and the sidelying position is extremely difficult to breastfeed from (and still moderately uncomfortable because of my stitches)... not to mention as time wears on per feeding and throughout the day, her latch gets pretty lazy and I have to fix it so much it's not even worth it after 1-2 (I kid you not) of trying to finish just one feeding. In order to just feed her efficiently so that I still have some time to myself (that's important even if she's a newborn, I think we can all agree) and to avoid frustrating not just myself, but her, I try to pump when I can, but that's also hard to keep up with every 2-3 hours at night, so often we turn to formula.

I really would love to exclusively breastfeed her, but given my circumstances it's just not turning out to be the best option for me or her. It's how I feel. As much as I support breastfeeding I have nothing against formula either, and it's helped me feed her when there's no other option readily and quickly available for her when she's hungry.

Naturally, I've taken a lot of crap for this, most particularly from my mom, and also considerably from my mother-in-law.

Anyway. I'm just trying to balance out all three things... breastfeeding, pumping and formula. Since I planned on breastfeeding though I never bothered to look up how many ounces babies should be drinking and how frequently at what age as they grow.

I'm totally clueless. Sorry this is so long. Anyway, that's my situation. Any and all support, tips, etc. would be appreciated, because this whole world of motherhood and feeding is completely foreign to me. I just want my baby to grow and gain the weight she needs to gain and to develop at the rate she should develop and be happy and healthy.

EDIT: If it matters much, when I do pump she gets about 3-4 (usually 4) oz. per feeding every 2-3 hours of my milk, and when we do formula we just give her a standard 4 oz. packet of Enfamil formula. And we use Evenflo 4 oz. glass bottles.

x-posted to bottlefeeding and formulafeeders

Fri, Nov. 7th, 2008 02:59 am (UTC)

I had exactly the same problem. We ended up doing a combination of all three as well, however ours was a little different. I stopped breastfeeding at around 2 weeks (but still pumping every 4 hours) because my bubba just wasn't latching on, but loved the bottle.

We gave her formula for each feed before we gave her bottled breast milk. She would usually guzzle down both. This way I could ensure she was not only getting a good feed (my supply was pretty pitiful anyway), but getting the passive immunity she needed from breast milk.

I started breastfeeding exclusively again at 6 weeks. Apparently, because their mouths are more developed, they can latch on better. It wasn't to be, unfortunately, so I let go of breastfeeding completely and only pumped for another couple of weeks. Of course, I read afterwards that if you keep trying, they figure it out by 3 months. While that seems like aaaaaaaaages away at the moment, I realise now that I should have done that. She was still getting formula, anyway, so she would have always had the nutrients she needed.

In short, don't panic. Don't listen to anyone else when they try to tell you what your baby needs, because they don't know your baby like you do. I found whenever I listened to other people, my baby would lose weight, rather than gain it. Your only concern if you do stop breastfeeding is that once it's gone, it doesn't come back. Keep up with the system that works best for you and bub.

Edited at 2008-11-07 03:00 am (UTC)

Fri, Nov. 7th, 2008 03:03 am (UTC)

I totally understand how you feel. In the end all that matters is what is best for you and your daughter.
Do what is comfortable and forget what every other tom dick and harry think(including mother and mother inlaw).

As for how much, just stick with the 4oz, if she is finishing that and wants more, by all means give it to her.

Don't ever let anyone make you feel guilty about giving her formula either!!!!!